If you cling to your life, you will lose it; but if you give up your life for me, you will find it. Matthew 10:39
But many who are first will be last, and the last first. Mark 10:31 NIV
Blessed are you when people insult you, persecute you and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because of me. Matthew 5:12 NIV
PAR·A·DOX: A SEEMINGLY ABSURD OR SELF-CONTRADICTORY STATEMENT OR PROPOSITION THAT WHEN INVESTIGATED OR EXPLAINED MAY PROVE TO BE WELL FOUNDED OR TRUE.
Makarios: Joy which has its secret within itself, that joy which is serene and untouchable, and self-contained that joy which is completely independent of all the chances and changes of life.
THE BEATITUDES ARE NOT SITUATIONS YOU FIND YOURSELF IN, BUT THEY ARE A SET OF CREEDS, MOTTOS, AND MINDSETS YOU LIVE BY!
Truly, deep within my true identity, I love to do what pleases God. But I discern another power operating in my humanity, waging a war against the moral principles of my conscience and bringing me into captivity as a prisoner to the “law” of sin—this unwelcome intruder in my humanity. Romans 7:22-23 TPT
THE WORLD’S CREED IS SELF-RELIANCE
“Trust thyself, every heart vibrates to that iron string. Discontent is the want of self-reliance. It is infirmity of will.” Ralph Waldo Emerson
GOD INSPIRED ACTION, NOT SELF INSPIRED ACTION.
The longings to do what is right are within me, but willpower is not enough to accomplish it. Romans 7:18 TPT
So who has the power to rescue this miserable man from the unwelcome intruder of sin and death? I give all my thanks to God, for his mighty power has finally provided a way out through our Lord Jesus, the Anointed One! So if left to myself, the flesh is aligned with the law of sin, but now my renewed mind is fixed on and submitted to God’s righteous principles. Romans 7:24-25
THE PARADOX OF JESUS’ BEATITUDES: Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted. Matthew 5:3-4 NIV
“Since I have begun, let me speak further to my Lord, even though I am but dust and ashes. Genesis 18:27
But Moses protested to God, “Who am I to appear before Pharaoh? Who am I to lead the people of Israel out of Egypt?”…But Moses pleaded with the Lord, “O Lord, I’m not very good with words. I never have been, and I’m not now, even though you have spoken to me. I get tongue-tied, and my words get tangled.” Exodus 3:11;4:10
THIS MINDSET IS A PARADOX BECAUSE AT FIRST, YOU THINK IT IS INVITING SELF-DEPRECATION INTO YOUR LIFE, BUT IT IS ACTUALLY INVITING DIVINE APPLICATION INTO YOUR LIFE!
Then the Lord asked Moses, “Who makes a person’s mouth? Who decides whether people speak or do not speak, hear or do not hear, see or do not see? Is it not I, the Lord? Now go! I will be with you as you speak, and I will instruct you in what to say.” Exodus 4:11-12
“The biblical antidote to low self-esteem is not high self-esteem; it is sovereign grace.” John Piper
Because Abraham believed God’s words, his faith transferred God’s righteousness into his account… But no one earns God’s righteousness. It can only be transferred when we no longer rely on our own works, but believe in the one who powerfully declares the ungodly to be righteous in his eyes. Romans 4:3;5 TPT
Then I would still have this consolation—my joy in unrelenting pain— that I had not denied the words of the Holy One. Job 6:10 NIV
God is not a man, so he does not lie. He is not human, so he does not change his mind. Has he ever spoken and failed to act? Has he ever promised and not carried it through? Numbers 23:19
➡ SURRENDER- There must be an emptying of SELF before there can be a filling of God’s promises.
Live happily with the woman you love through all the meaningless days of life that God has given you under the sun. The wife God gives you is your reward for all your earthly toil. Ecclesiastes 9:9
FUN IS NOT A LUXURY IN YOUR MARRIAGE, IT IS A NECESSITY.
3 TYPES OF FUN EVERY MARRIAGE MUST HAVE:
1. FACE TO FACE FUN
How beautiful are your sandaled feet, O queenly maiden. Your rounded thighs are like jewels, the work of a skilled craftsman. Your navel is perfectly formed like a goblet filled with mixed wine. Between your thighs lies a mound of wheat bordered with lilies. Your breasts are like two fawns, twin fawns of a gazelle. Your neck is as beautiful as an ivory tower. Your eyes are like the sparkling pools in Heshbon. Song of Solomon 7:1-4
2. SIDE TO SIDE FUN
“Come, my love, let us go out to the fields and spend the night among the wildflowers.” Song of Solomon 7:11
2 TIMES A MAN IS MOST LIKELY TO TALK:
1. WHEN HE IS DOING SOMETHING HE LIKES
2. AFTER HE HAS DONE SOMETHING HE LIKES
3. BELLY BUTTON TO BELLY BUTTON FUN
“Come, my love, let us go out to the fields and spend the night among the wildflowers. Let us get up early and go to the vineyards to see if the grapevines have budded, if the blossoms have opened, and if the pomegranates have bloomed. There I will give you my love.” Song of Solomon 7:11-12
“Let your wife be a fountain of blessing for you. Rejoice in the wife of your youth. She is a loving deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts satisfy you always. May you always be captivated by her love.” Proverbs 5:18-19
FEELINGS FOLLOW ACTIONS
Remember the height from which you have fallen! Repent and do the things you did at first… Revelation 2:5
When you are married will you have a goal to commit adultery?
Do you plan on getting addicted to porn?
How about having an emotional affair, you're not going to go all of the way, you're just going to give your heart to somebody else?
None of these are your goals!
Statistics say that well over half, closer to 75% of married couples will experience at least one or more of those things in their marriage.
Today we are going to learn how to defeat those odds.
Scripture says that purity matters to God & purity matters in your marriage.
Would you believe that 90% of Americans say adultery is wrong?? Only 90%?!
The University of California did a study & found that in just one decade between the years 1998 and 2008, the percentage of people committing adultery in our country had increased by over 50%.
Why is impurity increasing in marriages?
Because there are more temptations today
Facebook, instagram, snapchat... People meet old BF/GF on there & it just naturally starts something... Or they friend a girl and start Direct Messaging one another.
There are entire websites and apps devoted to helping people successfully cheat and have affairs discreetly. I cant even find an accurate weather app, but there are secret affair society apps to help you cheat!?
The biggest game changer in my opinion of temptation might be the smart phones and iPads and such. When I was a kid you had to sneak in and steal a magazine from one of your friends who had a dad who had a stash or go on the big family computer that sat out in the open and connected to that slow dial up... Now you have 24 hour access & can do it discreetly...
47% of American homes say that pornography is a problem in the home. Studies also show that pornography increases the chances of marital infidelity by 300%!
There's a growing sense of entitlement.
2 types of purity - inward and outward
1. Outward Purity: The Behavior
What is impurity? Basically, it's poison. We don't want any kind of poison in our marriage.
We are not just talking about having sex with someone that is not your spouse either...
looking a pornography... That’s a hint
Watching Magic Mike and lusting... That’s a hint
Dressing provocatively... That’s a hint
Watching inappropriate movies or reading inappropriate books... That’s a hint
Stay far away from the HINTS
1 Corinthians 6:18, 19-20
Flee! RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN! Because it will poison and destroy you...
I love the line where its says YOU ARE NOT YOUR OWN... Have you ever heard someone say “Its my body and I will do whatever I want” That is true when you are of this world, but when you are a follower of Jesus everything changes...
You were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body.
You must create healthy boundaries in your marriage.
Im never alone with another girl, I don’t counsel girls without my wife, If some girl texts or emails me about a personal issue my wife is ALWAYS brought into the conversation,
Emails, FB messages, phone calls, etc of the opposite sex are never secret
My wife has all my passwords. She can get on my phone at anytime, Facebook, email, etc...
I have accountability partners that aren’t my wife...
That all of these apply to you too.
YOU MUST CREATE HEALTHY BOUNDARIES....
Pastor Craig Groeschel says “why resist a temptation tomorrow that you can eliminate today”
Don’t set yourself up for failure. Prepare yourself for success!
The biggest thing with boundaries is this though…
You cant rely on rules to protect your marriage!
Outward purity is effected by…
2. Inward Purity: The Heart
We don’t have the strength alone to be outwardly pure... We need a deeper strength that only comes from God or we will be destined to fail...
David is saying the closer you get to God, the more he changes your heart. The closer you get to God the more disgusted you are towards sins that used to be something that drew you in
The heart MATTERS!!!
Purity is less about NOT doing something and way more about doing something.
Purity is about positioning your heart and spirit in a place where that isn’t even appealing to you because its not honoring to God and its not honoring to your spouse and therefore its not honoring to your heart.
Three common responses to impurity:
Repent and Don’t Give Up the Fight
You cant fully restore your marriage unless you are restored through the love and mercy of Jesus Christ.
If you have a spouse that repents, think about the courage it took. And I pray that their confession would be met with forgiveness and not judgment.
If you have been in a struggling marriage let this verse give you hope.
And if you are a struggling individual in here…
2 Chronicles 7:14
Remember purity is about action – HUMBLE themselves and pray…SEEK my face and turn from their ways of sin….I will restore their land