Direct your children onto the right path, and when they are older, they will not leave it. Proverbs 22:6
57% MORE TEENS ARE MORE SLEEP DEPRIVED TODAY THAN IN 1991
SLEEP DEPRIVATION IS LINKED TO COMPROMISED THINKING AND REASONING, SUSCEPTIBILITY TO ILLNESS, WEIGHT GAIN, HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE, DEPRESSION AND ANXIETY.
NEARLY 25% OF TEENAGERS (13-18) STRUGGLE WITH DEPRESSION, AND SUICIDE IS THE SECOND LEADING CAUSE OF DEATH AMONG TEENAGERS.
TEENAGERS CONSUME 2700 HOURS OF SCREEN TIME A YEAR.
THE AVERAGE PERSON HAS ONLY 5,840 AWAKE HOURS A YEAR.
THAT MEANS 46% OF A YOUNG PERSON'S LIFE IS IN FRONT OF A SCREEN.
For in this unbelieving world you will experience trouble and sorrows, but you must be courageous, for I have conquered the world!” John 16:33 TPT
Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect. Romans 12:2
ONLY ABOUT 10% OF YOUNG CHRISTIANS ACTUALLY BEAR THE QUALITIES OF A RESILIENT DISCIPLE.
2. CULTURAL DISCERNMENT
3. MEANINGFUL RELATIONSHIPS
4. VOCATIONAL DISCIPLESHIP
5. COUNTERCULTURAL AMBITION
MORE THAN A THIRD OF 11 TO 18-YEAR-OLDS SAID THEY HAD ASKED THEIR PARENTS TO STOP CHECKING THEIR DEVICES.
OF PUPILS WHO HAD ASKED THEIR PARENTS TO PUT DOWN THEIR PHONES, 46% SAID THEIR PARENTS TOOK NO NOTICE.
82% OF STUDENTS FELT MEALTIMES SHOULD BE DEVICE-FREE.
22% SAID THE USE OF DEVICES STOPPED THEIR FAMILIES ENJOYING EACH OTHER’S COMPANY.
So we must let go of every wound that has pierced us and the sin we so easily fall into. Then we will be able to run life’s marathon race with passion and determination, for the path has been already marked out before us. We look away from the natural realm and we fasten our gaze onto Jesus who birthed faith within us and who leads us forward into faith’s perfection. Hebrews 12:1-2 TPT
Fully embrace God’s correction as part of your training. Hebrews 12:7 TPT
Now all discipline seems to be more pain than pleasure at the time, yet later it will produce a transformation of character, bringing a harvest of righteousness and peace to those who yield to it. Hebrews 12:11 TPT
So be made strong even in your weakness by lifting up your tired hands in prayer and worship. And strengthen your weak knees, for as you keep walking forward on God’s paths all your stumbling ways will be divinely healed! Hebrews 12:12-13 TPT
YOU CANNOT BE A HEALTHY PARENT WITHOUT FIRST BEING A HEALTHY CHILD.
When all the people were being baptized, Jesus was baptized too. And as he was praying, heaven was opened and the Holy Spirit descended on him in bodily form like a dove. And a voice came from heaven: “You are my Son, whom I love; with you I am well pleased. Luke 3:21-22 NIV
whom I love
with you I am well pleased
While we live in these earthly bodies, we groan and sigh, but it’s not that we want to die and get rid of these bodies that clothe us. Rather, we want to put on our new bodies so that these dying bodies will be swallowed up by life. 2 Corinthians 5:4
He has planted eternity in the human heart. Ecclesiastes 3:11
For to me, living means living for Christ, and dying is even better. But if I live, I can do more fruitful work for Christ. So I really don’t know which is better. I’m torn between two desires: I long to go and be with Christ, which would be far better for me. But for your sakes, it is better that I continue to live. Philippians 1:21-24
“No eye has seen, no ear has heard, and no mind has imagined what God has prepared for those who love him.” 1 Corinthians 2:9
THE REALITIES OF HEAVEN
“How you think about Heaven affects everything in life-how your prioritize love, how willing you are willing to sacrifice for the long term, how you view suffering, what you fear or don’t fear.” John Burke
1. A PERFECT IDENTITY
Now we see things imperfectly, like puzzling reflections in a mirror, but then we will see everything with perfect clarity. All that I know now is partial and incomplete, but then I will know everything completely, just as God now knows me completely. Three things will last forever—faith, hope, and love—and the greatest of these is love. 1 Corinthians 13:12-13
You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body and knit me together in my mother’s womb. Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex! Your workmanship is marvelous—how well I know it. Psalm 139:13-14
2. A PERFECT COMMUNITY
May your Kingdom come; may your will be done on earth as it is in heaven. Matthew 6:10 GNT
You must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your mind. This is the first and greatest commandment. A second is equally important: Love your neighbor as yourself. The entire law and all the demands of the prophets are based on these two commandments. Matthew 22:37-40
After all, what gives us hope and joy, and what will be our proud reward and crown as we stand before our Lord Jesus when he returns? It is you! Yes, you are our pride and joy. 1 Thessalonians 2:19-20
Use your worldly resources to benefit others and make friends. Then, when your possessions are gone, they will welcome you to an eternal home. Luke 16:9
3. A PERFECT CITY
“See, I will create new heavens and a new earth… for I will create Jerusalem to be a delight and its people a joy. I will rejoice over Jerusalem and take delight in my people; the sound of weeping and of crying will be heard in it no more. They will build houses and dwell in them; they will plant vineyards and eat their fruit. Before they call I will answer; while they are still speaking I will hear. The wolf and the lamb will feed together…They will neither harm nor destroy on all my holy mountain,” says the Lord. Isaiah 65:17-25
So he took me in the Spirit to a great, high mountain, and he showed me the holy city, Jerusalem, descending out of heaven from God. It shone with the glory of God and sparkled like a precious stone—like jasper as clear as crystal. The city wall was broad and high, with twelve gates guarded by twelve angels. I saw no temple in the city, for the Lord God Almighty and the Lamb are its temple. And the city has no need of sun or moon, for the glory of God illuminates the city, and the Lamb is its light. Revelation 21:10-12;22-23
4. A PERFECT CHOICE
1 Peter 3:18
And I will give to each one a white stone, and on the stone will be engraved a new name that no one understands except the one who receives it. Revelations 2:17
And what do you benefit if you gain the whole world but lose your own soul? Is anything worth more than your soul? Matthew 16:26
All athletes are disciplined in their training. They do it to win a prize that will fade away, but we do it for an eternal prize. So I run with purpose in every step. I am not just shadowboxing. I discipline my body like an athlete, training it to do what it should. Otherwise, I fear that after preaching to others I myself might be disqualified. 1 Corinthians 9:25-27
8. WE ARE SOLEY MOTIVATED TO POPULATE HEAVEN
We live and breathe the Great Commission and will do anything short of sin to see people accept the gift of Jesus in their lives!
When Jesus heard this, he told them, “Healthy people don’t need a doctor—sick people do. I have come to call not those who think they are righteous, but those who know they are sinners.” Mark 2:17
"The church is not a museum of saints, but a hospital for sinners." Ann Landers
➡ WE UNDERSTAND THAT EVERY PERSON MATTERS TO GOD.
He does not want anyone to be destroyed, but wants everyone to repent. 2 Peter 3:9
➡ WE UNDERSTAND THAT WE MUST BREAK A FEW RULES.
When I am with those who are weak, I share their weakness, for I want to bring the weak to Christ. Yes, I try to find common ground with everyone, doing everything I can to save some. I do everything to spread the Good News and share in its blessings. 1 Corinthians 9:22-23
➡ WE UNDERSTAND THAT WE WILL DO WHATEVER IT TAKES.
When Jesus returned to Capernaum several days later, the news spread quickly that he was back home. Soon the house where he was staying was so packed with visitors that there was no more room, even outside the door. While he was preaching God’s word to them, four men arrived carrying a paralyzed man on a mat. They couldn’t bring him to Jesus because of the crowd, so they dug a hole through the roof above his head. Then they lowered the man on his mat, right down in front of Jesus. Seeing their faith, Jesus said to the paralyzed man, “My child, your sins are forgiven.” Mark 2:1-5
9. WE PASSIONATELY PURSUE THE VISION
God has given us a big vision that is much bigger than ourselves and we are passionate about creating a culture that desires to see that vision become reality.
God’s purpose in all this was to use the church to display his wisdom in its rich variety to all the unseen rulers and authorities in the heavenly places. Ephesians 3:10
The thief’s purpose is to steal and kill and destroy. My purpose is to give them a rich and satisfying life. “I am the good shepherd. The good shepherd sacrifices his life for the sheep. John 10:10-11
WE WILL GO FROM ATTENDERS TO INVITERS.
The LORD is close to the brokenhearted; he rescues those whose spirits are crushed. Psalms 34:18
Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble; A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken. Ecclesiastes 4:9-10;12
Confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The earnest prayer of a righteous person has great power and produces wonderful results. James 5:16
WE WILL COMMIT TO AN AUTHENTIC COMMUNITY
It’s in Christ that we find out who we are and what we are living for. Long before we first heard of Christ and got our hopes up, he had his eye on us, had designs on us for glorious living, part of the overall purpose he is working out in everything and everyone. Ephesians 1:11-12 MSG
WE WILL DISCOVER OUR UNIQUE DESIGN
MAKE A DIFFERENCE
But my life is worth nothing to me unless I use it for finishing the work assigned me by the Lord Jesus—the work of telling others the Good News about the wonderful grace of God. Acts 20:24
WE WILL PARTNER WITH EACH OTHER TO POPULATE HEAVEN.
Anyone who builds on that foundation may use a variety of materials—gold, silver, jewels, wood, hay, or straw. But on the judgment day, fire will reveal what kind of work each builder has done. The fire will show if a person’s work has any value. If the work survives, that builder will receive a reward. But if the work is burned up, the builder will suffer great loss. The builder will be saved, but like someone barely escaping through a wall of flames. 1 Corinthians 3:12-15
YOU CAN EITHER BE INFLUENCED OR BE INFLUENTIAL.
“You are the salt of the earth. But what good is salt if it has lost its flavor? Can you make it salty again? It will be thrown out and trampled underfoot as worthless. “You are the light of the world—like a city on a hilltop that cannot be hidden. No one lights a lamp and then puts it under a basket. Instead, a lamp is placed on a stand, where it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your good deeds shine out for all to see, so that everyone will praise your heavenly Father. Matthew 5:13-16
YOUR TITLE MAKES YOU A MANAGER, BUT YOUR PEOPLE MAKE YOU A LEADER.
1. WE FIND CONFIDENCE IN AUTHENTICITY
2. WE HUNGER FOR GROWTH
3. WE GRASP THAT EXCELLENCE REFLECTS CHARACTER
4. WE LAVISH OUR GENEROSITY
5. WE ARE SERVANT LEADERS.
"Whoever wants to be a leader among you must be your servant.” -Jesus. It is not about us, but the people we lead and we spend our energy inspiring and empowering them.
“Only a life lived in the service of others is worth living” Albert Einstein
Before the Passover celebration, Jesus knew that his hour had come to leave this world and return to his Father. He had loved his disciples during his ministry on earth, and now he loved them to the very end. Jesus knew that the Father had given him authority over everything and that he had come from God and would return to God. So he got up from the table, took off his robe, wrapped a towel around his waist, and poured water into a basin. Then he began to wash the disciples’ feet, drying them with the towel he had around him; After washing their feet, he put on his robe again and sat down and asked, “Do you understand what I was doing? You call me ‘Teacher’ and ‘Lord,’ and you are right, because that’s what I am. And since I, your Lord and Teacher, have washed your feet, you ought to wash each other’s feet. I have given you an example to follow. Do as I have done to you. I tell you the truth, slaves are not greater than their master. Nor is the messenger more important than the one who sends the message. Now that you know these things, God will bless you for doing them. John 13:1;3-5;12-17
✓ SERVING STARTS WITH ME.
Be an example to all believers in what you say, in the way you live, in your love, your faith, and your purity. 1 Timothy 4:12
✓ SERVING STARTS WITH BEING FAITHFUL WITH THE SECRET OPPORTUNITIES.
“You can map out a fight plan or a life plan. But when the action starts, you’re down to your reflexes. Thats where your road work shows. If you cheated on that in the dark morning, you’re getting found out now under the bright lights.” Joe Frazier
✓ SERVING STARTS WITH THE INSIGNIFICANT AREAS EVERYONE ELSE IGNORES.
If you think you are too important to help someone, you are only fooling yourself. You are not that important. Galatians 6:3
GREAT OPPORTUNITIES OFTEN DISGUISE THEMSELVES IN SMALL TASKS.
6. WE ARE SOLUTION-ORIENTED.
Anyone can identify a problem, but leaders identify solutions. A problem is just an opportunity for growth and a step to the next level as we discover the solution.
The number one predictor of success is grit, the ability to overcome adversity, challenges, obstacles that ultimately create our success. – Jon Gordon
EASE AND COMFORT ARE THE ENEMIES OF GRIT.
Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. James 1:2-4
✓ WE GATHER THE FACTS.
“What a shame—yes, how stupid!—to decide before knowing the facts!” Proverbs 18:13 TLB
✓ WE ARE OPEN TO NEW IDEAS.
“The intelligent man is always open to new ideas. In fact, he looks for them.” Proverbs 18:15 TLB
✓ WE LEAN ON GOD.
"If you want favor with both God and man, and a reputation for good judgment and common sense, then trust the Lord completely; don't ever trust yourself. In everything you do, put God first, and He will direct you and crown your efforts with success.” Proverbs 3:4-6, TLB
7. WE ARE UNAPOLOGETICALLY LOYAL-
We are more than a team we are family and we love, respect, support, and defend each other in that way.
WE DO NOT ALLOW NEGATIVE THOUGHTS AND WORDS TO BECOME A PUBLIC SPECTACLE.
✓ I WILL FIRST GO DIRECTLY TO THE PERSON INVOLVED AND NO ONE ELSE.
“If a brother sins against you, go to him privately and confront him with his fault. If he listens and confesses it, you have won back a brother. But if not, then take one or two others with you and go back to him again Matthew 18:15-16 TLB
✓ I WILL NOT HANG OUT WITH NEGATIVE PEOPLE.
“Bad company corrupts good character.” 1 Corinthians 15:33
I WILL SPEAK WORDS OF LIFE.
“The tongue has the power of life and death” Proverbs 18:21
OUR MISSION IS TOO IMPORTANT, AND OUR WORDS TOO POWERFUL, TO SPEAK CARELESSLY AND RISK DAMAGING PEOPLE.
1. WE FIND CONFIDENCE IN AUTHENTICITY.
2. WE HUNGER FOR GROWTH.
For we naturally love to do evil things that are just the opposite from the things that the Holy Spirit tells us to do; and the good things we want to do when the Spirit has his way with us are just the opposite of our natural desires. These two forces within us are constantly fighting each other to win control over us, and our wishes are never free from their pressures. Galatians 5:17 TLB
WE ARE NOT CONSUMERS, WE ARE CONTRIBUTORS. THE CHURCH DOES NOT EXIST FOR US; WE EXIST FOR THE WORLD!
God’s marvelous grace imparts to each one of us varying gifts and ministries that are uniquely ours. So if God has given you the grace-gift of prophecy, you must activate your gift by using the proportion of faith you have to prophesy. If your grace-gift is serving, then thrive in serving others well. If you have the grace-gift of teaching, then be actively teaching and training others. If you have the grace-gift of encouragement, then use it often to encourage others. If you have the grace-gift of giving to meet the needs of others, then may you prosper in your generosity without any fanfare. If you have the gift of leadership, be passionate about your leadership. And if you have the gift of showing compassion, then flourish in your cheerful display of compassion. Romans 12:6-8 TPT
CHURCH WAS NEVER MEANT TO BE A SPECTATOR SPORT.
3. WE GRASP THAT EXCELLENCE REFLECTS CHARACTER.
We will be stewards of the blessings we have been given and honor God and the people of Bloom by giving our absolute best.
“If a man is called to be a street sweeper, he should sweep streets even as Michelangelo painted…that all of the hosts of heaven and earth will pause to say, ‘Here lived a great street sweeper who did his job well.” -Martin Luther King Jr.
EXCELLENCE IS JUST BEING A GREAT STEWARD.
DREAMS ARE RECEIVED ON OUR KNEES, BUT ARE ACHIEVED ON OUR FEET.
So you see, faith by itself isn’t enough. Unless it produces good deeds, it is dead and useless.
Now someone may argue, “Some people have faith; others have good deeds.” But I say, “How can you show me your faith if you don’t have good deeds? I will show you my faith by my good deeds.” James 2:17-18
If you are faithful in little things, you will be faithful in large ones. But if you are dishonest in little things, you won’t be honest with greater responsibilities. Luke 16:10
4. WE LAVISH OUR GENEROSITY
We believe it is better to give than to receive and we will give generously of our time, talents, treasures, and our testimonies.
GENEROSITY IS GRATITUDE IN ACTION
‘It is more blessed to give than to receive.’ Acts 20:35
Now this is what the Lord Almighty says: “Give careful thought to your ways. You have planted much, but harvested little. You eat, but never have enough. You drink, but never have your fill. You put on clothes, but are not warm. You earn wages, only to put them in a purse with holes in it.” This is what the Lord Almighty says: “Give careful thought to your ways. Haggai 1:5-7
For even during a season of severe difficulty and tremendous suffering, they became even more filled with joy. From the depths of their extreme poverty, super-abundant joy overflowed into an act of extravagant generosity. For I can verify that they spontaneously gave, not only according to their means but far beyond what they could afford. They actually begged us for the privilege of sharing in this ministry of giving to God’s holy people who are living in poverty. 2 Corinthians 8:2-4 TPT
BEING GENEROUS IS NOT SOMETHING WE DO. BEING GENEROUS IS WHO WE ARE!
But generous people plan to do what is generous, and they stand firm in their generosity. Isaiah 32:8
3 KEY ELEMENTS OF GENEROSITY:
1. WORDS –
2. ACTIONS –
3. GIVING –
I AM GOING TO LIVE OUT STEWARDSHIP AND GENEROSITY WITH MY:
“Listen! A farmer went out to plant some seeds. As he scattered them across his field, some seeds fell on a footpath, and the birds came and ate them. Other seeds fell on shallow soil with underlying rock. The seeds sprouted quickly because the soil was shallow. But the plants soon wilted under the hot sun, and since they didn’t have deep roots, they died. Other seeds fell among thorns that grew up and choked out the tender plants. Still other seeds fell on fertile soil, and they produced a crop that was thirty, sixty, and even a hundred times as much as had been planted! Anyone with ears to hear should listen and understand.” Matthew 13:3-9
GOOD INTENTIONS BY THEMSELVES ARE NOT ENOUGH FOR GROWTH.
IF YOU AIM AT NOTHING, YOU WILL HIT IT EVERY TIME! -ZIG ZIGLER
1. WE FIND CONFIDENCE IN AUTHENTICITY.
We are fearfully and wonderfully made! We are not striving to be something we are not, but learning to discover our unique gifts to help impact the Kingdom of God.
For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago. Ephesians 3:10
For you are a chosen people. You are royal priests, a holy nation, God’s very own possession. As a result, you can show others the goodness of God, for he called you out of the darkness into his wonderful light. “Once you had no identity as a people; now you are God’s people. Once you received no mercy; now you have received God’s mercy.” 1 Peter 2:9-10
ONCE YOU LOSE THE REASON TO EXIST, YOU PHYSICALLY STOP EXISTING.
The thief’s purpose is to steal and kill and destroy. My purpose is to give them a rich and satisfying life. John 10:10
HUMAN METRICS ARE BASED ON STATISTICS AND COMPARISONS; HEAVEN’S METRICS ARE BASED ON STEWARDSHIP AND INFLUENCE.
QUIT DISQUALIFYING YOURSELF BECAUSE YOU COMPARE YOUR WEAKNESSES TO OTHERS’ STRENGTHS.
A spiritual gift is given to each of us so we can help each other. 1 Corinthians 12:7
2. WE HUNGER FOR GROWTH.
We must have a teachable spirit that strives to be the best versions of ourselves. Everything that grows must be stretched, broken down, and built back up.
I admit that I haven’t yet acquired the absolute fullness that I’m pursuing, but I run with passion into his abundance so that I may reach the purpose that Jesus Christ has called me to fulfill and wants me to discover. Philippians 3:12 TPT
I don’t depend on my own strength to accomplish this… Philippians 3:13 TPT
Ø YOU HAVE TO INVITE GOD INTO YOUR GROWTH.
However I do have one compelling focus: I forget all of the past as I fasten my heart to the future instead. Philippians 3:13 TPT
I run straight for the divine invitation of reaching the heavenly goal and gaining the victory-prize through the anointing of Jesus. Philippians 3:14 TPT
Do not waver, for a person with divided loyalty is as unsettled as a wave of the sea that is blown and tossed by the wind. Such people should not expect to receive anything from the Lord. Their loyalty is divided between God and the world, and they are unstable in everything they do. James 1:6-8
Power of Expectation
God has really been tugging at my heart to talk about expectations and the effect that they can have on our spiritual, mental, and even physical wellness. We will be going through a couple different stories in scripture, but I want to start in Matthew ch. 11:2-3
Let’s take a look… John the Baptist is in prison and he hears about all of these miracles that Jesus is doing but then he says “SO” which means…what you are getting ready to hear is based on what you just heard – he, John, heard what Jesus was doing….what was he doing, you might ask… healing the sick, blind eyes were being opened, deaf ears were being unstopped. John the Baptist hears this “SO” he questions Jesus’ identity. remember what it says in verse 3 – he says, are you the messiah we’ve been expecting, or should we keep looking for someone else.”
WHAT or WHO WAS JOHN EXPECTING?
We can pretty well assume that his expectations were out of line from what Jesus was doing because John asks that question right?…so who was right?
Let me ask what happens when you go one way, but God goes another?
What happens when your expectations for what you want God to do are not in God’s plan for you? What happens when your expectations are off and you expected God to do something for you that he never said he would do. Let me tell you this: Pastor Jeremy Foster said,
GOD MAY NOT ALWAYS LIVE UP TO YOUR EXPECTATIONS, BUT HE WILL ALWAYS LIVE UP TO HIS WORD. – Jeremy Foster
If he said he will never leave you he will never leave you.
If he said he will never forsake you, he will never forsake you.
PERSPECTIVE INFLUENCES EXPECTATION
Your perspective of a situation directly influences your expectations of that situation.
Lets go back to vs 2
There’s that word SO again! This is a pretty clear example of what John thought of Jesus. He clearly explains that he knows the extent of who Jesus is and that’s why he’s questioning Why in the world am I baptizing you!? You should be baptizing me!
Obviously, if we are here we aren’t in a physical prison, but I believe that the battles we face can feel a whole lot like we are imprisoned to them. But How many times while we are in church or at a conference or lifegroup or something holy….we feel like we can see what we need to. But the second that we get into a “prison” it all changes.
Assess. Find out where your perspective is right now because heres what I know:
AN UNHEALTHY PERSPECTIVE WILL ALWAYS CAUSE YOU TO DOUBT WHERE YOU’RE GOING
Set your expectations right.
Assess and reflect on where your perspective sits.
What would your perspective look like and how would it effect your expectations if you always remembered what God has done for you?
In Mark ch 4 - Jesus and his disciples are crossing the Sea of Galilea. Now the Sea of Galilea is surrounded by mountains, and what normally happens is cold air comes down the side of the mountains and it meets the hot air from the sea and MASSIVE storms comes up out of nowhere. This is exactly what is happening in Mark ch 4 and the disciples are FREAKING OUT. THIS IS IT THIS IS HOW WE’RE GOING TO DIE.
But Jesus wakes up and the bible says that he rebukes the wind and the waves, right we’ve all heard this story, but he goes on to look at his disciples and he says, “how do you still have no faith”
NOW Here’s the thing though – Jesus isn’t asking them that just because he calmed the winds and the waves, he’s saying How do you still have no faith based off of EVERYTHING YOU’VE SEEN ME DO TO THIS POINT.
What would it have looked like for the disciples if when that storm hit and they’re all WERE GONNA DIE, if one of them said “NO WERE NOT, JESUS IS IN THE BOAT, DO YOU REMEMBER HIM HEALING THAT GIRL, FEEDING ALL THOSE PEOPLE, CALLING OUT THAT DEMON? No we’re good, we’re going to be ok” let me tell you this church:
STORMS CAN BE SCARY, BUT JESUS IS WITH US
Your prison can be REALLY scary, but JESUS is with you! Sometimes what you have to do is look back on all the things he’s ALREADY DONE!
IF GOD HAS BEEN FAITHFUL TO YOU IN THE PAST, HE IS GOING TO BE FAITHFUL IN THE PRESENT AND IN THE FUTURE.
So you need to assess where you are at, remember what God has done, and last but not least, trust what God will do…So number 3:
Trust that God will do it. This is super hard…this might be one of the hardest ones. Going back to my last point:
IF GOD HAS BEEN FAITHFUL TO YOU IN THE PAST, HE IS GOING TO BE FAITHFUL IN THE PRESENT AND IN THE FUTURE.
Gods promises are yes and amen and like numbers say’s: God Is not a man so he does not lie and he does not change his mind. He is there for you and promises that he always will be. You just have to trust that.
He doesn’t care what failure you walked in here with…Let me tell you this right now…
GOD CAN OVERCOME YOUR FAILURE IF YOU CONTINUE TO HAVE FAITH
God can overcome your failure if you continue to have faith!
Be the LIGHT
-God has freed me from brokenness, so for the most part.. the answer is YES! How could I not be?
“For once you were full of darkness, but now you have light from the Lord. So live as people of light!”
Ephesians 5:8 NLT
Full of darkness!
-Kid (parents divorcing)
-Teenager (looking for love in all the wrong places)
-Then God saved me and called me to be a light!
“You are the light of the world—like a city on a hilltop that cannot be hidden.
No one lights a lamp and then puts it under a basket. Instead, a lamp is placed on a stand, where it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your good deeds shine out for all to see, so that everyone will praise your heavenly Father.”
Matthew 5:14-16 NLT
-If the answer is YES, then WHY? ( I HAVE FELT ALL OF THESE!)
-He says not to fear, He is with us.
“Don’t be afraid, for I am with you. Don’t be discouraged, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you. I will hold you up with my victorious right hand.” Isaiah 41:10
-Moses didn’t feel qualified either! Anytime I am called to speak and I feel unqualified to do so I remember this story.
“Then the Lord asked Moses, “Who makes a person’s mouth? Who decides whether people speak or do not speak, hear or do not hear, see or do not see? Is it not I, the Lord? 12 Now go! I will be with you as you speak, and I will instruct you in what to say.” Exodus 4:10-11
-He says, YOU are chosen and YOU are his child!
“…for you are a chosen people. You are royal priests, a holy nation, God’s very own possession. As a result, you can show others the goodness of God, for he called you out of the darkness into his wonderful light.” 1 Peter 2:9
-We serve a God who looks beyond your mistakes, He looks beyond your qualifications. His word says you are CHOSEN, you are His CHILD!
-It is time to stop HIDING under the BASKET!
-What source are you plugged into? (WRONG source, your light will go out)
“I pray that from his glorious, unlimited resources he will empower you with inner strength through his Spirit.” Ephesians 3:16
God will give you unlimited resources and he will empower you and give you strength IF you are connected to HIM!
-Make sure you are connected to the God as your source, because the world will slowly burn you out and your light will fade.
-When I think of having childlike faith I think of this story about our youngest daughter Bella.
- But that’s one of the things I love so much about children! They believe BIG! They have BIG faith!! Can us adults have faith like a child? Actually God calls us to! Look at what he says!
“About that time the disciples came to Jesus and asked, “Who is greatest in the Kingdom of Heaven?” Jesus called a little child to him and put the child among them. 3 Then he said, “I tell you the truth, unless you turn from your sins and become like little children, you will never get into the Kingdom of Heaven. 4 So anyone who becomes as humble as this little child is the greatest in the Kingdom of Heaven.” Matthew 18:1-4
-They will come. They have come for me. Joy has to come from Jesus NOT circumstances)
“We can rejoice, too, when we run into problems and trials, for we know that they help us develop endurance.” Romans 5:3
-Endurance has developed in me. And through it all, I felt the closes to Jesus
-Jesus was the best example of being a light!
-Jesus was making friends every where he went.
-(Story of Matt not letting me go into gas stations)
-EVERYONE is important. Everyone matters. Everyone deserves a friend, and everyone deserves to see the light of Jesus.
Ask yourself this question: Are you hiding your light under a basket? Or are you making sure your light is out on a stand?
Fatherhood is of course for those men who actually have children through conception or adoption, but Fatherhood is actually the call of every man that is a part of the body of Christ. We are called to reflect the Nature of God which Jesus’ references God as in The Lords Prayer.
1950 4.7% of Children were born out of Wedlock
Today that number has risen by 1700%
NATIONAL CENTER OF DISEASE CONTROL STATISTICS
· 85% of children that show behavioral disorders come from fatherless homes (20x the National Average)
· 90% of all American inmates are men
· Over 75% of said inmates grew up without a father
· 63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes (5x the National Average)
· 90% of homeless and runaway children come from fatherless homes (32x the National Average)
· 71% of all high school dropouts come from fatherless homes (9x the National Average)
When you remove fathers from a home society gets ill. We need to be fathers to a fatherless generation! I am going to say something that is definitely not PC in today's world, but a genderless world is dangerous! Men and women are different and different doesn't mean bad, but beneficial because we complete each other.
Genesis 2:18 NIV
The Hebrew word used here for “Helper” is found 17 times in the Bible. Referenced twice for women and 15 Times for God. “Suitable” in Hebrew really means something opposite of you that really completes you.
So they are joined as one. They are married and they complete each other. God created us specifically with a purpose which means our genders and biological makeups are on purpose and there are powerful qualities we each bring to complete each other!
Women are more natural when it comes to nurturing, with empathy, mercy, compassion, and peace. When a child typically gets hurt typically runs to mom and when they want protection or a display of strength they typically run to dad! Now dudes we need to strive for more empathy, mercy, compassion, and peace.
THE ROLE OF A FATHER
1. FATHER’S MUST PROTECT CHILDREN FROM DISCOURAGEMENT
The word implies losing heart, lack of motivation, spiritless, disinterested, with no purpose in life. Don’t be the kind of father who raises that kind of person. Instead, develop a style of fatherhood that produces the opposite of discouragement.
WE LEAD THEM TOWARDS HOPE
Psalms 20:7 TPT
WE LEAD THEM TOWARDS JOY OVER HAPPINESS
Happiness is fickle and fleeting it comes from the root word is from hap which means chance. Human happiness dependent on the chances and changes of life, something which life may give and which life may destroy. However, Joy is a heart thing… It is a mindset.
Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms — to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way. - Viktor Frankl
Can we be the type of men that show our children our devotion to God even in difficult times that we are not slaves to emotions, but servants to our God and that even in the midst of extreme difficulties we know God will work all things together for those who love him! We know he gives us peace beyond understanding!
WE LEAD THEM TOWARDS THEIR GOD-GIVEN CALLING
We need to teach young people that they are not accidents or afterthoughts. They are not less important, but they have been given a God-given calling to make an eternal difference in the Body of Christ. That they have been given spiritual gifts to make a heavenly difference a part of Gods community! We need to build their confidence not in themselves, but in their God and the identity God has for them!
2. FATHER’S MUST NOT MISUSE THEIR AUTHORITY
You ever heard the statement “Do what I say not what I do”? They are going to do what you do despite what you say and the biggest misuse of our authority is we don’t model the things of God we just mouth them! Our kids look at us and they see that we make everything a bigger priority over God in our lives. If God is an afterthought to you then most likely He will be of no thought to your children when they grow up!
WE CAN EITHER BE A GREAT EXAMPLE OR A HORRIBLE WARNING
Men who go to church, read the bible and pray statistically in this nation have the lowest divorce rate, the lowest adultery rate, and the lowest abuse rate. Also, have the happiest life and best intimacy in a relationship.
The Highest divorce rate people practice 2 different religions. Lowest both serve and active in the same religion.
Men who are Active believers. Surveys by sociologist
More expressive with their kids
More emotionally engaged in marriage
Desire to have a healthy legacy
Religious attendance associated with more empathetic behavior towards spouse and kids because they Understand there is sin and implement more grace to their spouses and children.
➡ WE HAVE TO LEAD BY EXAMPLE WITH A KINGDOM MENTALITY
We find Paul, here he's a little bit older and he's been through some “stuff”. By this point, he's like, hey, look, I figured some things out. This brings me to my first point:
I am not a hostage to my environment.
Listen to what Paul says in verse 12,
"I want you to know, dear ones, about what happened to me…"
Phil. 1:12 (a)
Listen to what he says to close out that verse:
"I want you know, dear ones, what has happened to me has not hindered, but helped my ministry of preaching the gospel, causing it to expand and spread to many people."
And the word that he uses for expand is the word that actually means to move forward and to make progress in spite of severe opposition. What if God is more interested in changing YOU than changing your situation? Sometimes God will use the very situations that we would pray away to do the things that can only be done in situations that we would not choose.
I am not a hostage to my circumstances.
Paul says in verse 13:
“For now the elite Roman guards an government officials overseeing my imprisonment have plainly recognized that I am here because of my love for the Anointed One.”
"I'm in chains for Christ. "I know it looks like I'm chained to these guards, "but actually, these guards are chained to me." This chain goes both ways, so I've been preaching in this prison, and don't worry about Paul, and don't circulate a petition to get Paul outta prison, 'cause I'm doing work up in here. can you say the same thing about the situation that you're in today that you feel stuck in? Are you so busy asking God to get you out that you miss the fact that God is trying to get in? Because Paul has reached that point in his life. He's got his priorities straight. He says, "I am put here," verse 16. I'm put here not by Caesar, not by the people who threw in this prison for preaching. I'm put here, I'm not a hostage to how I feel, I'm not a hostage to what I want.
“because they know I’ve been destined for the purpose of defending the revelation of God.”
Even if people mean it for evil, God will use it for good. So I'm not a hostage to what people think about me. You know how you can tell Paul has reached that point that he's no longer a hostage is because of what he says
"…what does it matter…?"
Paul said, "I'm not a hostage to my expectations. "I'm not a hostage to my plans "because I'm committed to God's purpose."And Paul said,
"For what does it matter as long as Christ is being preached?”
Paul said, "as long as Christ is being preached." So even if I'm in this prison, I don't feel sorry for myself because God is using this too. It is in your weakness that his strength is made perfect. So if the situation doesn't change, God, change me, and use me, and "I'm in these chains right now," Paul said. But if God can use these chains of my situation to change somebody else's life, then God, use the chains.
I’m not a hostage to this world.
Paul's saying in the letter, I'm already out. I'm not outta prison yet, but I'm already free. My situation hasn't changed yet, but my spirit is free.Then he makes a shift. And it's weird because he doesn't know what's gonna happen next. I'm not a hostage. God's gonna use me here, God's gonna use me there. If he leaves me, he has something for me to do. If he takes me, he's done with me. I'm good either way.
'…If they preach him with mixed motives or with genuine love, the message of Christ is still being preached. And I will (1) continue to rejoice because I know that the lavish supply of the Spirit of Jesus, the Anointed One, and your intercession for me will (2) bring about my deliverance. No matter what, I will (3) continue to hope and passionately cling to Christ, so that he will (4) be openly revealed through me before everyone’s eyes. So I will (5) not be ashamed! In my life or in my death, Christ will (6) be magnified in me. My true life is the Anointed One, and dying means gaining more of him. So here’s my dilemma : Each day I live means bearing more fruit in my ministry; yet I fervently long to be liberated from this body and joined fully to Christ. That would suit me fine, but the greatest advantage to you would be that I remain alive. So you can see why I’m torn between the two—I don’t know which I prefer. Yet deep in my heart I’m confident that I will (7) be spared so I can add to your joy and further strengthen and mature your faith. When I am freed to come to you, my deliverance will (8) give you a reason to boast even more in Jesus Christ.'
8 times. Some of us have a faith that is held hostage to the outcome and if we see our progress and sense our progress, then we press in and press on. Paul said, "I'm not a hostage to that outcome. "I trust God in the process.We have to remember, God is there through the highs and lows of our lives. Which brings me to my take-home:
Trust the process
There is a sticky question many Christians struggle with: Is depression a sin?
This particular question is posed to me by more people than perhaps any other when trying to understand what is going on emotionally with themselves or with someone close to them. The situation isn't helped by well-meaning Christians who don't understand depression saying things like: "You just need to have more faith," or "There must be sin in your life, or you wouldn't feel like this," or even "If you'd pray harder (read the Bible more, have a deeper walk with the Lord), you wouldn't have this problem." To someone who already feels guilty about everything, this just piles on even more guilt.
I have found that sometimes it’s pastors who are most likely to suffer with depression. That’s because often times they are much more sensitive to sin and to evil in themselves and their world. They are also the ones most overcommitted in their service of the Lord, which makes them special targets for satanic attacks.
But are they right? Is depression a sin, or a picture of sin in our life? I answer that with an unequivocal no!
Where does this idea come from? We can trace this idea all the way back to John 9:3 where Jesus heals a blind man.
3 “Neither this man nor his parents sinned,” said Jesus, “but this happened so that the works of God might be displayed in him. 4 As long as it is day, we must do the works of him who sent me. Night is coming, when no one can work. 5 While I am in the world, I am the light of the world.”
The man was thrown out after the Pharisees questioned him. Jesus replied,
35 Jesus heard that they had thrown him out, and when he found him, he said, “Do you believe in the Son of Man?”
36 “Who is he, sir?” the man asked. “Tell me so that I may believe in him.”
37 Jesus said, “You have now seen him; in fact, he is the one speaking with you.”
38 Then the man said, “Lord, I believe,” and he worshiped him.
Many people will ask this question, “What sin have I committed that has brought me depression?” We need to remember the word’s of Jesus. “Neither this man nor his parents sinned. This happened so that the power of God might be displayed in your life.
While sins in the past can contribute to depression, suffering from depression and its effects are not. Viewing depression as sin in and of itself prevents individuals from seeking treatment. There is a huge GUILT that comes into play. It also ignores the fact that many Christians may respond to depression in unhealthy ways.
Just because someone is feeling spiritually dark, does not necessarily bean there is a spiritual cause of these feelings. There are physiological components that come into play. Continue in ministry.
How do we deal with depression?
My favorite scripture. 1 Peter 2:9
9 But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, God’s special possession, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light.
Who is chosen? Who is a royal priesthood? Who is a holy nation? Who is God’s special possession?
Greater is He who is in me than he who is in the world. Jesus knows your suffering. He experienced more suffering than any of us will ever know. I want to give you hope. Hope that the Church has suffered from this and come out on the other side. Hope that your story will bring others hope in their lowest times. Hope that they can bring God glory in the darkness. I want to pray over you today.
The light is coming.
The weight is being lifted.
Our true identity is being revealed.
Our purpose is being revealed.
We are starting to feel strength rise up in us.
The fog is being lifted.
Chains are breaking.
Freedom is yours.
Victory is in reach.
Can anything ever separate us from Christ’s love?
Does it mean he no longer loves us if we have trouble or calamity, or are persecuted, or hungry, or destitute, or in danger, or threatened with death? (As the Scriptures say, “For your sake we are killed every day; we are being slaughtered like sheep.” No, despite all these things, overwhelming victory is ours through Christ, who loved us. Romans 8:35-37
IF YOUR FAITH IS TIED TO THE REWARD OF THE PROMISE INSTEAD OF THE LOVE OF THE PROMISE, THEN YOUR FAITH WILL BE SURFACE, AND YOUR FAITHFULNESS WILL BE TEMPORARY!
MOST BELIEVERS NEVER WALK IN THE PROMISES OF GOD BECAUSE THEY WANT TO BYPASS THE REFINEMENT OF GOD!
These trials will show that your faith is genuine. It is being tested as fire tests and purifies gold—though your faith is far more precious than mere gold. So when your faith remains strong through many trials, it will bring you much praise and glory and honor on the day when Jesus Christ is revealed to the whole world. 1 Peter 1:7
HE CANNOT BE A GOD THAT LOVES AND A GOD THAT IGNORES BECAUSE THEY CONTRADICT THEMSELVES.
We can rejoice, too, when we run into problems and trials, for we know that they help us develop endurance. And endurance develops strength of character, and character strengthens our confident hope of salvation. Romans 5:3-4
Purify me from my sins, and I will be clean; wash me, and I will be whiter than snow. Oh, give me back my joy again; you have broken me— now let me rejoice. Don’t keep looking at my sins. Remove the stain of my guilt. Create in me a clean heart, O God. Renew a loyal spirit within me. Psalms 51:7-10
WE ARE FAITHFUL NO MATTER OUR CIRCUMSTANCES.
And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them. Romans 8:28
Not that I was ever in need, for I have learned how to be content with whatever I have. I know how to live on almost nothing or with everything. I have learned the secret of living in every situation, whether it is with a full stomach or empty, with plenty or little. For I can do everything through Christ, who gives me strength. Even so, you have done well to share with me in my present difficulty. Philippians 4:11-14
2. WE ARE FAITHFUL BECAUSE WE STAY PERSISTENT WHEN NOTHING CHANGES.
hope means that we must trust and wait for what is still unseen. For why would we need to hope for something we already have? So because our hope is set on what is yet to be seen, we patiently keep on waiting for its fulfillment. Romans 8:24-25 TPT
One day Jesus told his disciples a story to show that they should always pray and never give up. “There was a judge in a certain city,” he said, “who neither feared God nor cared about people. A widow of that city came to him repeatedly, saying, ‘Give me justice in this dispute with my enemy.’ The judge ignored her for a while, but finally he said to himself, ‘I don’t fear God or care about people, but this woman is driving me crazy. I’m going to see that she gets justice, because she is wearing me out with her constant requests!’”
Then the Lord said, “Learn a lesson from this unjust judge. Even he rendered a just decision in the end. So don’t you think God will surely give justice to his chosen people who cry out to him day and night? Will he keep putting them off? I tell you, he will grant justice to them quickly! Luke 1-8
3. FAITHFULNESS STARTS SMALL AND BECOMES MONUMENTAL.
Elijah climbed to the top of Mount Carmel and bowed low to the ground and prayed with his face between his knees. Then he said to his servant, “Go and look out toward the sea.” The servant went and looked, then returned to Elijah and said, “I didn’t see anything.” Seven times Elijah told him to go and look. Finally the seventh time, his servant told him, “I saw a little cloud about the size of a man’s hand rising from the sea.” Then Elijah shouted, “Hurry to Ahab and tell him, ‘Climb into your chariot and go back home. If you don’t hurry, the rain will stop you!’” And soon the sky was black with clouds. A heavy wind brought a terrific rainstorm. 1 Kings 18:42-45
No, despite all these things, overwhelming victory is ours through Christ, who loved us. And I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God’s love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow—not even the powers of hell can separate us from God’s love. No power in the sky above or in the earth below—indeed, nothing in all creation will ever be able to separate us from the love of God that is revealed in Christ Jesus our Lord. Romans 8:37-39
· GOD DOESN’T EXPECT PERFECTION, BUT HE DOES DESIRE PROGRESSION.
Just as the body is dead without breath, so also faith is dead without good works. James 2:26
When I was living among you, you lived in responsive obedience. Now that I’m separated from you, keep it up. Better yet, redouble your efforts. Be energetic in your life of salvation, reverent and sensitive before God. That energy is God’s energy, an energy deep within you… Philippians 2:12-13 MSG
TAKE YOUR FAITH ONE DAY AT A TIME.
TODAY LET ME HONOR GOD BY THE WAY I LIVE.
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Romans 8:18-21 TPT
HOPE IS CHEAPENED IF IT IS DEFINED BY OUR CIRCUMSTANCES AND NOT BY OUR TRUST IN GOD.
✓ GOD RESPONDS TO OUR TROUBLES.
✓ GOD STILL HEALS.
✓ GOD RESTORES OUR SOULS.
2 Corinthians 5:17
✓ GOD DESIRES TO DO THE IMPOSSIBLE THROUGH US.
HOW DO WE WALK IN THE POWER OF GOD?
Romans 8:26 TPT
• THE HOLY SPIRIT KNOWS AND ASKS FOR WHAT WE NEED.
Romans 8:26 TPT
• THE HOLY SPIRIT KNOWS AND ASKS FOR GOD’S WILL.
Romans 8:27 TPT
• THE HOLY SPIRIT GIVES US CONFIDENCE DESPITE OUR CIRCUMSTANCES.
Romans 8:28 TPT
HOW DOES THE HOLY SPIRIT PRAY FOR US?
• WE MUST BE BAPTIZED IN THE HOLY SPIRIT.
Acts 19:1-3 TPT
1 John 5:7-8
WE ARE DESTINED TO LIVE A SUPERNATURAL LIFE, NOT A NATURAL ONE.
HOW DO WE GET FILLED WITH THE HOLY SPIRIT?
1. REMOVE ALL OBSTACLES.
2. ASK FOR THE HOLY SPIRIT TO FILL YOU.
3. RECEIVE THE HOLY SPIRIT BY FAITH.
4. SEEK HIM DAILY.
2 Corinthians 13:14 MSG
Yes, just as you can identify a tree by its fruit, so you can identify people by their actions. Matthew 7:20
For the Holy Spirit makes God’s fatherhood real to us as he whispers into our innermost being, “You are God’s beloved child!” Romans 8:16 TPT
For his Spirit joins with our spirit to affirm that we are God’s children. Romans 8:16 NLT
3 WAYS THE HOLY SPIRIT AFFIRMS WE ARE GOD’S CHILDREN AS WE START MAKING LIFE-GIVING LIFESTYLE, HEART, & MINDSET CHOICES:
1. LIFESTYLE CHOICE - WE WAGE WAR AGAINST SIN.
So then, beloved ones, the flesh has no claims on us at all, and we have no further obligation to live in obedience to it. For when you live controlled by the flesh, you are about to die. But if the life of the Spirit puts to death the corrupt ways of the flesh, we then taste his abundant life. Romans 8:12-13 TPT
Hate what is wrong. Hold tightly to what is good. Romans 12:9
Listen, you lovers of God! Hate evil, for God can keep you from wrong and protect you from the power of wickedness. Psalms 97:10 TPT
YOU HAVE TO GET TO THE POINT WHERE YOU LOVE THE FREEDOM FROM YOUR SIN OVER THE CONVENIENCE OF YOUR TEMPTATION.
“Don’t sin by letting anger control you.” Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry, for anger gives a foothold to the devil. Ephesians 4:26-27
Do what is good and run from evil so that you may live! Amos 5:14
Throw off your old sinful nature and your former way of life. Ephesians 4:22
✓ NEGATIVE OR INAPPROPRIATE RELATIONSHIPS
✓ NEGATIVE WORDS
✓ NEGATIVE ENVRIONMENTS
✓ NEGATIVE MINDSETS
2. HEART CHOICE - SUBMIT TO THE HOLY SPIRIT'S DIRECTION.
The mature children of God are those who are moved by the impulses of the Holy Spirit. Romans 8:14
Now, those who are mature in their faith can easily be recognized, for they don’t live to please themselves but have learned to patiently embrace others in their immaturity. Our goal must be to empower others to do what is right and good for them, and to bring them into spiritual maturity. For not even the most powerful one of all, the Anointed One, lived to please himself. Romans 15:1-3
Therefore, go and make disciples of all the nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit. Teach these new disciples to obey all the commands I have given you. And be sure of this: I am with you always, even to the end of the age.” Matthew 28:19-20
MINISTRY IS THE PATHWAY TO MATURITY.
What good is it, dear brothers and sisters, if you say you have faith but don’t show it by your actions? Can that kind of faith save anyone?; So you see, faith by itself isn’t enough. Unless it produces good deeds, it is dead and useless. Now someone may argue, “Some people have faith; others have good deeds.” But I say, “How can you show me your faith if you don’t have good deeds? I will show you my faith by my good deeds.” James 2:14;17-18
A spiritual gift is given to each of us so we can help each other. 1 Corinthians 12:7
3. MINDSET CHOICE - WE CRY OUT TO GOD OUR FATHER.
And you did not receive the “spirit of religious duty,” leading you back into the fear of never being good enough. But you have received the “Spirit of full acceptance,” enfolding you into the family of God. And you will never feel orphaned, for as he rises up within us, our spirits join him in saying the words of tender affection, “Beloved Father!” Romans 8:15
And since we are his true children, we qualify to share all his treasures, for indeed, we are heirs of God himself. And since we are joined to Christ, we also inherit all that he is and all that he has. We will experience being co-glorified with him provided that we accept his sufferings as our own. Romans 8:17 TPT
IS MY MOTIVATION IN BUILDING THE KINGDOM OF ME, OR THE KINGDOM OF GOD?
THE EIGHTH CHAPTER- Week 1
I have discovered this principle of life—that when I want to do what is right, I inevitably do what is wrong. I love God’s law with all my heart. But there is another power within me that is at war with my mind. This power makes me a slave to the sin that is still within me. Oh, what a miserable person I am! Romans 7:21-24
So who has the power to rescue this miserable man from the unwelcome intruder of sin and death? I give all my thanks to God, for his mighty power has finally provided a way out through our Lord Jesus, the Anointed One! So if left to myself, the flesh is aligned with the law of sin, but now my renewed mind is fixed on and submitted to God’s righteous principles. Romans 7:24-25 TPT
So now the case is closed. There remains no accusing voice of condemnation against those who are joined in life-union with Jesus, the Anointed One. Romans 8:1 TPT
1. WE HAVE A NEW RELATIONSHIP.
…Those who are joined in life-union with Jesus, the Anointed One. Romans 8:1 TPT
You don’t belong to yourself any longer, for the gift of God, the Holy Spirit, lives inside your sanctuary. You were God’s expensive purchase, paid for with tears of blood, so by all means, then, use your body to bring glory to God! 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 TPT
Since a great price was paid for your redemption, stop having the mind-set of a slave. 1 Corinthians 7:23 TPT
2. WE HAVE A NEW FREEDOM
For the “law” of the Spirit of life flowing through the anointing of Jesus has liberated us from the “law” of sin and death; God sent us his Son in human form to identify with human weakness. Clothed with humanity, God’s Son gave his body to be the sin-offering so that God could once and for all condemn the guilt and power of sin. So now every righteous requirement of the law can be fulfilled through the Anointed One living his life in us. And we are free to live, not according to our flesh, but by the dynamic power of the Holy Spirit! Romans 8:2-4 TPT
3. WE HAVE A NEW LEADERSHIP
Those who are motivated by the flesh only pursue what benefits themselves. But those who live by the impulses of the Holy Spirit are motivated to pursue spiritual realities. For the mind-set of the flesh is death, but the mind-set controlled by the Spirit finds life and peace. In fact, the mind-set focused on the flesh fights God’s plan and refuses to submit to his direction, because it cannot! Romans 8:5-7 TPT
WHATEVER MOTIVATES YOU NOW, OVER TIME YOU WILL MANIFEST.
Lord, I passionately love you and I’m bonded to you, for now you’ve become my power! Psalms 18:1 TPT
When I was at my weakest, my enemies attacked—but the Lord held on to me. His love broke open the way and he brought me into a beautiful broad place. He rescued me—because his delight is in me! Psalms 18:18-19 TPT
I’ve kept my integrity by surrendering to him. And so the Lord has rewarded me with his blessing. Psalms 18:24 TPT
4. WE HAVE A NEW POWER
But when the Spirit of Christ empowers your life, you are not dominated by the flesh but by the Spirit. And if you are not joined to the Spirit of the Anointed One, you are not of him. Now Christ lives his life in you! Yes, God raised Jesus to life! And since God’s Spirit of Resurrection lives in you, he will also raise your dying body to life by the same Spirit that breathes life into you! Romans 8:9-11 TPT
This means that anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun! 2 Corinthians 5:17
➡ WE VALUE WHAT WE PRIORITIZE.
Wherever your treasure is, there the desires of your heart will also be. Luke 12:34
PAR·A·DOX: A SEEMINGLY ABSURD OR SELF-CONTRADICTORY STATEMENT OR PROPOSITION THAT WHEN INVESTIGATED OR EXPLAINED MAY PROVE TO BE WELL FOUNDED OR TRUE.
Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need. Matthew 6:33
THE PARADOX OF JESUS’ BEATITUDES Blessed are the peacemakers... Matthew 5:9 NIV
WHAT WE TEND TO BELIEVE: Blessed are those that are protestors; those that fire up their base!
PUBLIC CRITICISMS NEVER CHANGE ANYONE. HOWEVER, PRIVATE CONVERSATIONS IN LOVE DO.
Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called children of God. Matthew 5:9 NIV
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And the God of peace will swiftly pound Satan to a pulp under your feet! Romans 16:20 TPT
Now, may the God of peace and harmony set you apart, making you completely holy. 1 Thessalonians 5:23 TPT
Now may the God of peace—who brought up from the dead our Lord Jesus… Hebrews 13:20
And because we are his children, God has sent the Spirit of his Son into our hearts, prompting us to call out, “Abba, Father.” Galatians 4:6
For all who are led by the Spirit of God are children of God. Romans 8:14
You have heard the law that says, ‘Love your neighbor’ and hate your enemy. But I say, love your enemies! Pray for those who persecute you! In that way, you will be acting as true children of your Father in heaven. Matthew 5:43-45
AS GOD’S CHILDREN WE ARE CALLED TO STRIVE FOR PEACE AS WE…
LOVE OUR ENEMIES
But I say, love your enemies! Matthew 5:44
PRAY FOR THEM
Pray for those who persecute you! Matthew 5:44
REJECT SELECTIVE PEACE
If you are kind only to your friends, how are you different from anyone else? Even pagans do that. Matthew 5:47
STRIVE TO BE THE BIGGER PERSON
Do all that you can to live in peace with everyone. Romans 12:18
THE PARADOX OF JESUS’ BEATITUDES Blessed are those who are persecuted because righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Matthew 5:10 NIV
Our bodies are buried in brokenness, but they will be raised in glory. They are buried in weakness, but they will be raised in strength. They are buried as natural human bodies, but they will be raised as spiritual bodies. For just as there are natural bodies, there are also spiritual bodies. 1 Corinthians 15:43-44
“Blessed are you when people insult you, persecute you and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because of me. Rejoice and be glad, because great is your reward in heaven, for in the same way they persecuted the prophets who were before you. Matthew 5:11-12 NIV
If you were to give your allegiance to the world, they would love and welcome you as one of their own. But because you won’t align yourself with the values of this world, they will hate you. I have chosen you and taken you out of the world to be mine. John 15:19 TPT
“I know all the things you do, that you are neither hot nor cold. I wish that you were one or the other! But since you are like lukewarm water, neither hot nor cold, I will spit you out of my mouth! Revelation 3:15-16
Be sure that your faith is in God alone. Do not waver, for a person with divided loyalty is as unsettled as a wave of the sea that is blown and tossed by the wind. Such people should not expect to receive anything from the Lord. Their loyalty is divided between God and the world, and they are unstable in everything they do. James 1:6-8
Then Jesus said to his disciples, “If any of you wants to be my follower, you must give up your own way, take up your cross, and follow me. If you try to hang on to your life, you will lose it. But if you give up your life for my sake, you will save it. And what do you benefit if you gain the whole world but lose your own soul? Is anything worth more than your soul? Matthew 16:24
➡ DAILY INVITE GOD TO BE THE LORD OF YOUR ENTIRE LIFE.
I plead with you to give your bodies to God because of all he has done for you. Let them be a living and holy sacrifice—the kind he will find acceptable. This is truly the way to worship him. Romans 12:1
PAR·A·DOX: A SEEMINGLY ABSURD OR SELF-CONTRADICTORY STATEMENT OR PROPOSITION THAT WHEN INVESTIGATED OR EXPLAINED MAY PROVE TO BE WELL FOUNDED OR TRUE.
THE PARADOX OF JESUS’ BEATITUDES: Blessed are the merciful, for they will be shown mercy. Matthew 5:7 NIV
WHAT WE TEND TO BELIEVE: Blessed are those that are forgiven, for they will be shown mercy.
'It is more blessed to give than to receive.' Acts 20:35
THE OPPOSITE OF MERCIFUL IS SELF-PRESERVATION AT THE COST OF OTHERS.
Later, Matthew invited Jesus and his disciples to his home as dinner guests, along with many tax collectors and other disreputable sinners. But when the Pharisees saw this, they asked his disciples, “Why does your teacher eat with such scum?” When Jesus heard this, he said, “Healthy people don’t need a doctor—sick people do.” Then he added, “Now go and learn the meaning of this Scripture: ‘I want you to show mercy, not offer sacrifices.’ For I have come to call not those who think they are righteous, but those who know they are sinners.” Matthew 9:10-13
One day an expert in religious law stood up to test Jesus by asking him this question: “Teacher, what should I do to inherit eternal life?” Jesus replied, “What does the law of Moses say? How do you read it?” The man answered, “‘You must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, all your strength, and all your mind.’ And, ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’” “Right!” Jesus told him. “Do this and you will live!” The man wanted to justify his actions, so he asked Jesus, “And who is my neighbor?” Luke 9:25-29
Then a despised Samaritan came along… Luke 10:33
4 STEPS OF MERCY:
1. WE MUST SEE THE DISTRESS.
…Samaritan came along, and when he saw the man... Luke 10:33
2. RESPOND WITH COMPASSION.
…he felt compassion for him. Luke 10:33
3. COMPASSION LEADS TO ACTION.
…Samaritan soothed his wounds with olive oil and wine and bandaged them. Then he put the man on his own donkey and took him to an inn, where he took care of him. Luke 10:34
4. MERCY IS GIVEN DESPITE DIFFERENCES.
The next day he handed the innkeeper two silver coins, telling him, ‘Take care of this man. If his bill runs higher than this, I’ll pay you the next time I’m here.’ Luke 10:35
“Now which of these three would you say was a neighbor to the man who was attacked by bandits?” Jesus asked. The man replied, “The one who showed him mercy.” Then Jesus said, “Yes, now go and do the same.” Luke 10:36-37
Mercy (Greek word Eleos) is kindness or good will towards the miserable and the afflicted, joined with a desire to relieve them.
THE PARADOX OF JESUS’ BEATITUDES: Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God. Matthew 5:8 NIV
WHAT WE TEND TO BELIEVE: Blessed are God’s favorites, for they will see God.
Dear friends, since God loved us that much, we surely ought to love each other. No one has ever seen God. But if we love each other, God lives in us, and his love is brought to full expression in us. And God has given us his Spirit as proof that we live in him and he in us. 1 John 4:11-13
WHEN DISCIPLES PURSUE THE PRESENCE OF GOD, AND THEN START POURING OUT THE THINGS OF GOD INTO OTHERS INSTEAD OF HOARDING IT FOR THEMSELVES, A REVIVAL IS THE RESULT!
HOW CAN WE LOVE GOD WITH ALL OUR HEARTS?
And I will give you a new heart, and I will put a new spirit in you. I will take out your stony, stubborn heart and give you a tender, responsive heart. And I will put my Spirit in you so that you will follow my decrees and be careful to obey my regulations. Ezekiel 36:26-27
➡ INVITE THE HOLY SPIRIT TO SHOW YOU.
Search me, O God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. Point out anything in me that offends you, and lead me along the path of everlasting life. Psalms 139:23-24
➡ INVITE THE HOLY SPIRIT TO CHANGE YOU.
Create in me a clean heart, O God. Renew a loyal spirit within me. Psalms 51:10
➡ INVITE THE HOLY SPIRIT TO FILL YOU.
Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life. Proverbs 4:23
✓ WHAT WE CONSUME WILL EVENTUALLY CONSUME US.
PAR·A·DOX: A SEEMINGLY ABSURD OR SELF-CONTRADICTORY STATEMENT OR PROPOSITION THAT WHEN INVESTIGATED OR EXPLAINED MAY PROVE TO BE WELL FOUNDED OR TRUE.
Stop imitating the ideals and opinions of the culture around you, but be inwardly transformed by the Holy Spirit through a total reformation of how you think. This will empower you to discern God’s will as you live a beautiful life, satisfying and perfect in his eyes. Romans 12:2 TPT
THE PARADOX OF JESUS’ BEATITUDES:
Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth. Matthew 5:5 NIV
THE WORLD’S CREED IS MORE LIKE: Blessed are the unconquerable, for they will inherit the earth.
➡ MEEKNESS IS SIMPLY POWER UNDER CONTROL
But the meek will inherit the land and enjoy peace and prosperity. Psalms 37:11 NIV
Give God the right to direct your life, and as you trust him along the way you’ll find he pulled it off perfectly! Psalms 37:5 TPT
Quiet your heart in his presence and pray; keep hope alive as you long for God to come through for you. And don’t think for a moment that the wicked in their prosperity are better off than you Psalms 37:7 TPT
Stay away from anger and revenge. Keep envy far from you, for it only leads you into lies. Psalms 37:8
“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” Matthew 11:28-30
THE PARADOX OF JESUS’ BEATITUDES: Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they will be filled. Matthew 5:6 NIV
THE WORLD’S CREED IS MORE LIKE: Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for success, for they will be filled.
He has planted eternity in the human heart, but even so, people cannot see the whole scope of God’s work from beginning to end. Ecclesiastes 3:11
➡ THE QUESTION EVERY DISCIPLE MUST ANSWER IS: WHERE DOES MY SATISFACTION COME FROM?
Everything they do is for show. On their arms they wear extra wide prayer boxes with Scripture verses inside, and they wear robes with extra long tassels. And they love to sit at the head table at banquets and in the seats of honor in the synagogues. Matthew 23:5-6
If you love me, obey my commandments. John 14:15
O God of my life, I’m lovesick for you in this weary wilderness. I thirst with the deepest longings to love you more, with cravings in my heart that can’t be described. Such yearning grips my soul for you, my God! I’m energized every time I enter your heavenly sanctuary to seek more of your power and drink in more of your glory. For your tender mercies mean more to me than life itself. How I love and praise you, God! Daily I will worship you passionately and with all my heart. My arms will wave to you like banners of praise. I overflow with praise when I come before you, for the anointing of your presence satisfies me like nothing else. You are such a rich banquet of pleasure to my soul. Psalms 63:1-5 TPT
➡ I WILL SURRENDER NOT OUT OF DUTY OR OBLIGATION, BUT OUT OF DELIGHT AND OPPORTUNITY! SO WHERE DO I NEED TO SURRENDER?
If you cling to your life, you will lose it; but if you give up your life for me, you will find it. Matthew 10:39
But many who are first will be last, and the last first. Mark 10:31 NIV
Blessed are you when people insult you, persecute you and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because of me. Matthew 5:12 NIV
Makarios: Joy which has its secret within itself, that joy which is serene and untouchable, and self-contained that joy which is completely independent of all the chances and changes of life.
THE BEATITUDES ARE NOT SITUATIONS YOU FIND YOURSELF IN, BUT THEY ARE A SET OF CREEDS, MOTTOS, AND MINDSETS YOU LIVE BY!
Truly, deep within my true identity, I love to do what pleases God. But I discern another power operating in my humanity, waging a war against the moral principles of my conscience and bringing me into captivity as a prisoner to the “law” of sin—this unwelcome intruder in my humanity. Romans 7:22-23 TPT
THE WORLD’S CREED IS SELF-RELIANCE
“Trust thyself, every heart vibrates to that iron string. Discontent is the want of self-reliance. It is infirmity of will.” Ralph Waldo Emerson
GOD INSPIRED ACTION, NOT SELF INSPIRED ACTION.
The longings to do what is right are within me, but willpower is not enough to accomplish it. Romans 7:18 TPT
So who has the power to rescue this miserable man from the unwelcome intruder of sin and death? I give all my thanks to God, for his mighty power has finally provided a way out through our Lord Jesus, the Anointed One! So if left to myself, the flesh is aligned with the law of sin, but now my renewed mind is fixed on and submitted to God’s righteous principles. Romans 7:24-25
THE PARADOX OF JESUS’ BEATITUDES: Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted. Matthew 5:3-4 NIV
“Since I have begun, let me speak further to my Lord, even though I am but dust and ashes. Genesis 18:27
But Moses protested to God, “Who am I to appear before Pharaoh? Who am I to lead the people of Israel out of Egypt?”…But Moses pleaded with the Lord, “O Lord, I’m not very good with words. I never have been, and I’m not now, even though you have spoken to me. I get tongue-tied, and my words get tangled.” Exodus 3:11;4:10
THIS MINDSET IS A PARADOX BECAUSE AT FIRST, YOU THINK IT IS INVITING SELF-DEPRECATION INTO YOUR LIFE, BUT IT IS ACTUALLY INVITING DIVINE APPLICATION INTO YOUR LIFE!
Then the Lord asked Moses, “Who makes a person’s mouth? Who decides whether people speak or do not speak, hear or do not hear, see or do not see? Is it not I, the Lord? Now go! I will be with you as you speak, and I will instruct you in what to say.” Exodus 4:11-12
“The biblical antidote to low self-esteem is not high self-esteem; it is sovereign grace.” John Piper
Because Abraham believed God’s words, his faith transferred God’s righteousness into his account… But no one earns God’s righteousness. It can only be transferred when we no longer rely on our own works, but believe in the one who powerfully declares the ungodly to be righteous in his eyes. Romans 4:3;5 TPT
Then I would still have this consolation—my joy in unrelenting pain— that I had not denied the words of the Holy One. Job 6:10 NIV
God is not a man, so he does not lie. He is not human, so he does not change his mind. Has he ever spoken and failed to act? Has he ever promised and not carried it through? Numbers 23:19
➡ SURRENDER- There must be an emptying of SELF before there can be a filling of God’s promises.
Live happily with the woman you love through all the meaningless days of life that God has given you under the sun. The wife God gives you is your reward for all your earthly toil. Ecclesiastes 9:9
FUN IS NOT A LUXURY IN YOUR MARRIAGE, IT IS A NECESSITY.
3 TYPES OF FUN EVERY MARRIAGE MUST HAVE:
1. FACE TO FACE FUN
How beautiful are your sandaled feet, O queenly maiden. Your rounded thighs are like jewels, the work of a skilled craftsman. Your navel is perfectly formed like a goblet filled with mixed wine. Between your thighs lies a mound of wheat bordered with lilies. Your breasts are like two fawns, twin fawns of a gazelle. Your neck is as beautiful as an ivory tower. Your eyes are like the sparkling pools in Heshbon. Song of Solomon 7:1-4
2. SIDE TO SIDE FUN
“Come, my love, let us go out to the fields and spend the night among the wildflowers.” Song of Solomon 7:11
2 TIMES A MAN IS MOST LIKELY TO TALK:
1. WHEN HE IS DOING SOMETHING HE LIKES
2. AFTER HE HAS DONE SOMETHING HE LIKES
3. BELLY BUTTON TO BELLY BUTTON FUN
“Come, my love, let us go out to the fields and spend the night among the wildflowers. Let us get up early and go to the vineyards to see if the grapevines have budded, if the blossoms have opened, and if the pomegranates have bloomed. There I will give you my love.” Song of Solomon 7:11-12
“Let your wife be a fountain of blessing for you. Rejoice in the wife of your youth. She is a loving deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts satisfy you always. May you always be captivated by her love.” Proverbs 5:18-19
FEELINGS FOLLOW ACTIONS
Remember the height from which you have fallen! Repent and do the things you did at first… Revelation 2:5
When you are married will you have a goal to commit adultery?
Do you plan on getting addicted to porn?
How about having an emotional affair, you're not going to go all of the way, you're just going to give your heart to somebody else?
None of these are your goals!
Statistics say that well over half, closer to 75% of married couples will experience at least one or more of those things in their marriage.
Today we are going to learn how to defeat those odds.
Scripture says that purity matters to God & purity matters in your marriage.
Would you believe that 90% of Americans say adultery is wrong?? Only 90%?!
The University of California did a study & found that in just one decade between the years 1998 and 2008, the percentage of people committing adultery in our country had increased by over 50%.
Why is impurity increasing in marriages?
Because there are more temptations today
Facebook, instagram, snapchat... People meet old BF/GF on there & it just naturally starts something... Or they friend a girl and start Direct Messaging one another.
There are entire websites and apps devoted to helping people successfully cheat and have affairs discreetly. I cant even find an accurate weather app, but there are secret affair society apps to help you cheat!?
The biggest game changer in my opinion of temptation might be the smart phones and iPads and such. When I was a kid you had to sneak in and steal a magazine from one of your friends who had a dad who had a stash or go on the big family computer that sat out in the open and connected to that slow dial up... Now you have 24 hour access & can do it discreetly...
47% of American homes say that pornography is a problem in the home. Studies also show that pornography increases the chances of marital infidelity by 300%!
There's a growing sense of entitlement.
2 types of purity - inward and outward
1. Outward Purity: The Behavior
What is impurity? Basically, it's poison. We don't want any kind of poison in our marriage.
We are not just talking about having sex with someone that is not your spouse either...
looking a pornography... That’s a hint
Watching Magic Mike and lusting... That’s a hint
Dressing provocatively... That’s a hint
Watching inappropriate movies or reading inappropriate books... That’s a hint
Stay far away from the HINTS
1 Corinthians 6:18, 19-20
Flee! RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN! Because it will poison and destroy you...
I love the line where its says YOU ARE NOT YOUR OWN... Have you ever heard someone say “Its my body and I will do whatever I want” That is true when you are of this world, but when you are a follower of Jesus everything changes...
You were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body.
You must create healthy boundaries in your marriage.
Im never alone with another girl, I don’t counsel girls without my wife, If some girl texts or emails me about a personal issue my wife is ALWAYS brought into the conversation,
Emails, FB messages, phone calls, etc of the opposite sex are never secret
My wife has all my passwords. She can get on my phone at anytime, Facebook, email, etc...
I have accountability partners that aren’t my wife...
That all of these apply to you too.
YOU MUST CREATE HEALTHY BOUNDARIES....
Pastor Craig Groeschel says “why resist a temptation tomorrow that you can eliminate today”
Don’t set yourself up for failure. Prepare yourself for success!
The biggest thing with boundaries is this though…
You cant rely on rules to protect your marriage!
Outward purity is effected by…
2. Inward Purity: The Heart
We don’t have the strength alone to be outwardly pure... We need a deeper strength that only comes from God or we will be destined to fail...
David is saying the closer you get to God, the more he changes your heart. The closer you get to God the more disgusted you are towards sins that used to be something that drew you in
The heart MATTERS!!!
Purity is less about NOT doing something and way more about doing something.
Purity is about positioning your heart and spirit in a place where that isn’t even appealing to you because its not honoring to God and its not honoring to your spouse and therefore its not honoring to your heart.
Three common responses to impurity:
Repent and Don’t Give Up the Fight
You cant fully restore your marriage unless you are restored through the love and mercy of Jesus Christ.
If you have a spouse that repents, think about the courage it took. And I pray that their confession would be met with forgiveness and not judgment.
If you have been in a struggling marriage let this verse give you hope.
And if you are a struggling individual in here…
2 Chronicles 7:14
Remember purity is about action – HUMBLE themselves and pray…SEEK my face and turn from their ways of sin….I will restore their land
HEALTHY COUPLES FIGHT FOR RESOLUTION, UNHEALTHY COUPLES FIGHT FOR VICTORY.
Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, for man's anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires. James 1:19-20
SO HOW DO YOU FIGHT FAIR?
1. YOU HAVE TO STOP AND LISTEN.
A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions. Proverbs 18:2
STEPS TO LISTEN:
A. REPEAT BACK TO YOUR SPOUSE WHAT THEY JUST SAID.
B. VALIDATE EACH OTHERS’ FEELINGS.
2. GUARD YOUR WORDS.
Watch your tongue and keep your mouth shut, and you will stay out of trouble. Proverbs 21:23 NLT
A. SHOULD IT BE SAID?
B. SHOULD IT BE SAID NOW?
RULES OF FIGHTING:
Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry... James 1:19
In your anger do not sin. Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold. Ephesians 4:26-27
FOUR SIGNS YOU AREN’T FIGHTING FAIR:
• DON’T REACT IN EMOTION, RESPOND IN THE SPIRIT.
Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good. Rom 12:21
• CONFRONT TO HEAL NEVER TO WIN.
Finally, all of you, live in harmony with one another; be sympathetic, love as brothers, be compassionate and humble. Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult, but with blessing, because to this you were called so that you may inherit a blessing. 1 Peter 3:8-10
• FORGIVE. APOLOGIZE.
2 reasons for this series: 1) we believe that to have a thriving life you have to have thriving relationships. 2)I wanted to this series because this month me and my wife will celebrate our 15 year anniversary this year and I thought it was appropriate. amber and i have a great relationship (now) and it is very healthy, but it is far from perfect! there are things we have to work through and things we have to constantly strive to be better at. we don’t always see eye-to-eye on everything, especially…lunch.
and oftentimes we have the misconception that, and us guys really tend to lean this way. we think we only need marriage series, or marriage retreats, or books on marriage, or counseling if our marriage is in shambles or hanging by a thread. Now you do need those things if your marriage is at that point, but it is a flat out lie of the devil if you think you only need those things if your marriage is at that point. all joking aside, i don’t want a good relationship i want a great relationship. this is the most important relationship we have on earth, shouldn’t it be the greatest relationship we have on earth? The only way that will happen if daily we strive to be better. phil. 3 says
“i don’t mean to say that i have already achieved these things or that i have already reached perfection. but i press on to possess that perfection for which christ jesus first possessed me. no, dear brothers and sisters, i have not achieved it, but i focus on this one thing: forgetting the past and looking forward to what lies ahead, i press on to reach the end of the race and receive the heavenly prize for which god, through christ jesus, is calling us.” philippians 3:12-14
marriage retreats/marriage series/marriage books and yes even counseling is to me like holistic medicine. holistic medicine can treat illnesses and sickness, but are better at preventing.. they are considered to be more effective as preventive medicine and developing your body so it does not get sick instead of just treating sickness. that is the way our marriages should be!!! we should focus more on continuing to have a healthy marriage instead of just fixing problems and putting out fires like many of us do.
and if you are not married in here… who is not married, raise your hands? this marriage message is for you because i am sure you want to be married someday and, unless your desire is to be a celibate isolated hermit, you will develop into the person that will have a thriving relationship from day one!
so over the next several weeks we are going to talk about 5 commitments that you must make to have a thriving marriage. we title this series “cupid needs more ammo” because butterflies, passion, emotions…they just aren’t enough to sustain a healthy marriage.
girls, dreaming about their wedding. (songs, decorations, dress, names) Boys, not so much. (worried if so). sex 2 a day, 3 on weekends. who’s living out those dreams? “many are disappointed-Is it even possible to have a thriving marriage? not if we base if off culture.
50% make it(less if married young) -the ones that do, a lot are miserable and only stay together for the kids-when/where else are u ok with those odds? 50 odds of a car accident-walking, 50 odds pill swelling heads/hands/feet 3x size-wouldn’t take, 50 chance of losing a check and never finding-new bank
yet for some odd crazy reason we are ok with those odds in marriage and do nothing to shift those odds in our favor. let’s ask God to help us because we don’t want to just “get by”, we want to thrive!
when we get married we say vows like this…
i, matt, take you, amber, to be my wedded wife, my constant friend, my faithful partner and my love from this day forward. in the presence of God, our family and friends, i offer you my solemn vow to be your faithful partner in sickness and in health, in good times and in bad, and in joy as well as in sorrow.
many times we don’t seek god before our marriage, we focus instead on the spouse. because we have this stupid thought that we won’t be happy until we meet “the one”. you know what i mean when i say “the one”? that perfect guy or girl that makes all your dreams come true. we think fulfillment is only found in “the one” and that’s true, but we have labeled the wrong person “the one”
god is your one your spouse is your two.
what did jesus say was the most important commandment?
“the most important commandment is this…you must love the lord your god with all your heart, all your soul, all your mind, and all your strength.” mark 12:29-30
not your spouse, your god!
the commitment for people who are not married…
in the interim, in the meantime i want to challenge you to have a mindset of:
i will seek the one while preparing for the two.
seek god, know god, pursue god, trust god, love god and watch your life soar
“trust in the lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. seek his will in all you do, and he will show you which path to take.” proverbs 3:5-6
single people-i’m gonna live it up, do what i want…when i decide to get married, then i’ll straighten up, then i’ll get right w god. Problem: when the time comes u carry emotional baggage & trauma-marriage
become the person you want to marry today.
the commitment for people who are married…how do I stay healthy/grow w my spouse? What can i do today to make a difference moving forward?
i will always seek the one with my two. when spouses become our 1, they become idols-bc we think theyre our source of joy/happiness
we idolize our spouses and then we demonize them when they let us down.
idolize-set an impossible bar so high that they must meet all our needs/fulfill/sustain us & when they can’t live up to this impossible expectation we demonize them.
when we are dating…i love how she is so independent…driven…put together…her life is in order.
then we get married & we say she is a control freak, all she does is nag, and she only wants it her way!
The girl will say I love how laid back he is…easy going…comforts me…listener…cares about my problems.
then married he is lazy…always trying to fix my problems…doesn’t do anything…not a leader.
that’s what happens when we don’t seek our 1 w our 2
i wanna talk real quick about the most important spiritual discipline in a relationship to seek god…
theres a lot, but one can lead to them all. “the power of habit” by charles duhigg-keystone habit-habit that leads to other good habits or habit that, if you don’t do it, creates negative momentum and leads to negative habits.
example: gym-eating healthy-energy-having great days. not going to the gym-not eat healthy-gain weight-new wardrobe-no energy at work: lose job-depressed-gain more weight-need more new clothes-no money-shirts fit like tube tops
keystone habit to set marriage on a path of health and holiness:
keystone marriage habit: pray together every day!
“then if my people who are called by my name will humble themselves and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, i will hear from heaven and will forgive their sins and restore their land.” 2 chronicles 7:14
people in here: land restored in their marriage-humble themselves and hear from heaven-his presence in your marriage will make it thrive. girls in here-stoked. dudes-cmon bro
ways to pray with your “two”
don’t be intimidated: start! today! can’t guarantee success w/o prayer-devil doesn’t want you praying together.
“ confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. the earnest prayer of a righteous person has great power and produces wonderful results.” james 5:16
“i also tell you this: if two of you agree here on earth concerning anything you ask, my father in heaven will do it for you. for where two or three gather together as my followers, i am there among them.” matthew 18:19-20
god in the midst of your relationship? pray. pray together-church together-involved at church-life group-life giving friendships w great couples-raise kids in a godly environment. hard to divorce someone you’re seeking god with. “hard” take the odds! “family life” mag-1000s of christian couples, <8% prayed together daily-years later, those couples: <1% got divorced. <1%!!! That’s stacking the odds in your favor!
crazy spiritual together! fight! don’t settle, thrive! thriving is not divorcing and starting over, seeking god together with your 2!
“seek the kingdom of god above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need.” matthew 6:33 grab hold of your 2 and never stop seeking the 1 together!
-share a bit about our story. redemption. hope in a hopeless situation. “it was over…through the grace and glory of god he created something brand new. you may feel like you’re hanging by a thread, on the brink of martial destruction, but I promise that, if you seek him as your one, put him as the center of your relationship (matching tattoos), your marriage will soar!”
-invitation- (“i’ve made my two my one, and i don’t even know my one…i have no idea how to do this because i don’t know how to do this because i’ve never made my one…number 1 in my life. all of that can change today, right now! your god, creator of the heavens and the earth, the one who sent His son to die for every sin you’d ever commit so He can have a relationship with you, wants nothing more than for you to come home today! he’s waiting. and all you have to do is repeat a simple prayer we’re all about to repeat together. “sounds too easy!”…never meant to be hard, but it does have to be chosen, accepted by you. and today is your chance. don’t miss this: your everything can change right now…bow your heads…
Now may the God of peace— who brought up from the dead our Lord Jesus, the great Shepherd of the sheep, and ratified an eternal covenant with his blood— may he equip you with all you need for doing his will. May he produce in you, through the power of Jesus Christ, every good thing that is pleasing to him. All glory to him forever and ever! Amen.
1. HE IS THE GOD OF PEACE.
Now may the God of peace… Hebrews 13:20
“I am leaving you with a gift—peace of mind and heart. And the peace I give is a gift the world cannot give. So don’t be troubled or afraid.”
GOD WANTS TO GIVE YOU A SUPERNATURAL PEACE THAT CAN WITHSTAND TIME, TRAGEDY, & ADVERSITY.
Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.
2. HE IS THE GOD OF RESURRECTION.
….who brought up from the dead our Lord Jesus… Hebrews 13:20
For if there is no resurrection of the dead, then Christ has not been raised either. And if Christ has not been raised, then all our preaching is useless, and your faith is useless.
1 Corinthians 15:13-14
…The scripture cannot be broken.
John 10:35 KJV
“We’re going up to Jerusalem, where the Son of Man will be betrayed to the leading priests and the teachers of religious law. They will sentence him to die. Then they will hand him over to the Romans to be mocked, flogged with a whip, and crucified. But on the third day he will be raised from the dead.”
Then Jesus said to them, “You foolish people! You find it so hard to believe all that the prophets wrote in the Scriptures. Wasn’t it clearly predicted that the Messiah would have to suffer all these things before entering his glory?” Then Jesus took them through the writings of Moses and all the prophets, explaining from all the Scriptures the things concerning himself; Suddenly, their eyes were opened, and they recognized him. And at that moment he disappeared! They said to each other, “Didn’t our hearts burn within us as he talked with us on the road and explained the Scriptures to us?”
Luke 24:25-27; 31-32
The Spirit of God, who raised Jesus from the dead, lives in you. And just as God raised Christ Jesus from the dead, he will give life to your mortal bodies by this same Spirit living within you.
3. HE IS THE GOD THAT IS OUR SHEPHERD.
…the great Shepherd of the sheep… Hebrews 13:20
The thief’s purpose is to steal and kill and destroy. My purpose is to give them a rich and satisfying life. “I am the good shepherd.
Acknowledge that the Lord is God! He made us, and we are his. We are his people, the sheep of his pasture.
My sheep listen to my voice; I know them, and they follow me. I give them eternal life, and they will never perish. No one can snatch them away from me, for my Father has given them to me, and he is more powerful than anyone else. No one can snatch them from the Father’s hand. The Father and I are one.
4. HE IS THE GOD OF COVENANTS.
…and ratified an eternal covenant with his blood. Hebrews 13:20
He always stands by his covenant— the commitment he made to a thousand generations.
So now I live with the confidence that there is nothing in the universe with the power to separate us from God’s love. I’m convinced that his love will triumph over death, life’s troubles, fallen angels, or dark rulers in the heavens. There is nothing in our present or future circumstances that can weaken his love.
Romans 8:38 TPT
5. HE IS THE GOD THAT EQUIPS.
…may he equip you with all you need for doing his will...
For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus,
so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago.
WE LET THE LIES OF OUR INSECURITIES CANCEL OUT OUR POTENTIAL.
In his grace, God has given us different gifts for doing certain things well.
6. HE IS THE GOD THAT SANCTIFIES.
May he produce in you, through the power of Jesus Christ, every good thing that is pleasing to him.
But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control; Since we are living by the Spirit, let us follow the Spirit’s leading in every part of our lives.
All glory to him forever and ever! Amen.